If you use popular romantic books and movies as basis for reality, your sex/love life will never compare. Making love all night (whatever making love means), being soul mates, tall dark and handsome men, blah blah blah. The pair share a steamy and erotic night, full of passion and joint orgasms, before falling asleep in each others arms.
In reality there are ups and downs, fatigue from long days at work, stress, being sick, not being in the mood, boredom, inability to outwardly express feelings with your loved one, a busy schedule, and the list goes on.
You've seen the typical movie plot -- boy and girl meet and there's something stopping them from love -- usually a man who is not ready to commit -- and then in the end they fall in love and live happily ever after. While it's enjoyable to watch and the happy ending is comforting, it's not a realistic comparison for your love life.
Using these unrealistic characters (characters because they are not human beings) for comparison will set you up for disappointment. Your love life isn't going to compare to a fairy tale and it's not healthy to expect a specific experience or raise your standards to unreachable levels. That's not to say you shouldn't have high standards, everyone should, but there's a level that is unattainable and absurd.
Most of these characters are created from fantasies -- what woman wouldn't want a man to take her to candlelit dinners (minus the awkward chitchat when you find yourself with nothing interesting to say), buy her flowers or gifts for no reason, tell her how much they love her, and to spend more time on foreplay, focusing on her pleasure instead of getting themselves off and falling asleep?! Yes! But to expect all this -- the ultimate perfect man -- is silly. The men in these books and movies (it's always chick flicks -- guy flicks have impossible-bodied big boob women and explosions) are typically changed by the woman's love -- she's the one to capture his womanizing heart! How romantic.
Barf. If these are the standards we use as comparison for our significant others, straight from romance novels and romantic comedies, no wonder the divorce rate is disastrous.
You're obviously "doing it" wrong, Ms Vendetta. I have been told by reliable sources that each time I board the fuck train I am like a golden stallion racing toward orgasmic perfection; I am the Alpha and Omega of pleasure; I am the blinding light of passion that clouds all judgment in that moment of crescendo. You should read more Penthouse Forum.
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